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EFT & Meditation Hour for self care

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EFT and Guided Meditation

I’m offering this session free of charge in April & May 2020. Online.
Friday 7:30am HKT / Thurs 7:30pm EST / Thurs 4:30pm PDT (see the time in your time zone).
Click here to sign up.

Group EFT tapping followed by a guided meditation to build a strong sense of connection to self. Access your emotional energy to release tension, get grounded and and find complete calm in your body and mind.

Experience the power of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and “borrow benefits” as we tap together in a small group. Tapping helps calm the nervous system, release tension and reduce the intensity of uncomfortable thoughts and feelings in the mind and body.

We end with a meditation, either sitting or laying down. The meditation is guided, helping you to
– feel more centred
– access safety and comfort in your body
– connect with self
– be at ease in your physical and emotional body.
Helping you to be grounded and calm to increase your sense of vitality & aliveness.

Access a more grounded sense of self to feel calm, collected and confident. Notice how tapping before meditation helps you to be more present and relax deeper.

EFT and meditation hour

HKD $180
Please see the calendar for dates and venue details. (I’m offering this session free of charge, weekly, in April & May 2020. Sign up here).

Send me an email with questions or for more info.


Accredited-Advanced-Practitioner EFTiThis group class is facilitated by Falguni Mather, qualified Counsellor, yoga teacher and an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International.

Emotional Intelligence and Introduction to EFT

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Emotional Health and an Introduction to EFT

Next workshop 27th August, 6:30 pm at The Hive, Sheung Wan
Cost: $350/members, $450/non members (click here to book)

Emotional Intelligence

Did you know that your Emotional Intelligence or EQ is a bigger determining factor of resilience and success in life than your IQ?

Emotional Intelligence has been identified as one of the top skills for the 21st Century by the World Economic Forum.

What is emotional intelligence anyway? Basically, it’s the ability to notice your emotions, know what you’re feeling, be able to feel what you’re feeling so you can navigate through the experience. EQ leads to greater self-integration, which allows more empathy for others’ emotions, deepening connection and social interactions.

Emotional Health

You’d think it was a no brainer to feel your feelings, right? But there’s a big difference between knowing what you’re feeling and being able to experience the emotions.

Emotional health is not only about big issues like depression or anxiety. It includes the little worries, frustrations, doubts, sadness or guilt that you experience in your daily life.

Most of us have never been taught, or never learned, how to navigate the intensity of ‘bad’ feelings. It’s difficult, and can be literally painful; these uncomfortable emotions are not only in our mind and in our thoughts but also held in our physical bodies. (For example, tightness in your neck and shoulders when you’re worried, tension in your stomach when you’re nervous, or heaviness in your heart when you’re sad).

In this workshop I share how acknowledging and mobilising emotions regulates interactions, physical health, and responses to daily stress. Learn to use your emotions as your guideposts rather than something to manage or control. Become responsive vs. reactive; empowered in life, in health and in your relationships.

Emotional Freedom Techniques

I will introduce EFT (also known as tapping), a simple, practical and useful technique that you learn to use right away. EFT is a powerful tool that helps in the three ‘A’s needed for healing and growth: Awareness, Acceptance and Action.

This is an experiential and interactive workshop including time for Q&A.

FREE resources: Receive a free EFT ‘how to’ card plus a detailed emotions chart.

Participant feedback:
“The workshop gave me a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of our mind, body, and feelings, along with how to use EFT. My biggest take away was the breathing and tapping technique that I can implement on myself and the student athletes I work with. Thank you Falguni for a warm, inclusive and thought provoking session” -Kadie

Emotional Intelligence with EFT

Dates, times and venues vary. Please see the calendar for upcoming workshops on this topic.

Next workshop 27th August, 6:30 pm at The Hive, Sheung Wan
Cost: $350/members, $450/non members (click here to book)

Read: a short article by Daniel Goleman IQ Doesn’t Predict Success.


“Discussing emotions is always tricky for people. But ultimately the society we need to create to sustain the planet depends on our ability to speak emotionally with some sort of comfort or fluency.” – Josh Bernstein

Teens Learn EFT Tapping for the New School Year

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EFT Tapping for Teens: reduce stress and build resilience

Teens learn Tapping An accelerated learning module on EFT for students ages 15-18 – helping them reduce stress and build resilience.
facilitated by Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in October/ November for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Setting and achieving goals for teenagers at this time of life can be stressful and time is scarce!

In two 90 minute sessions, teens will learn and practice the EFT Tapping technique and save many hours spent worrying, feeling upset or procrastinating on assignments and school work.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), or tapping, is a self-applied stress management tool that can help with:

  • Fear of failure
  • Perfectionism
  • Low moods
  • Lack of confidence
  • Procrastination
  • Worries about the future
  • Insomnia
  • Exam stress (tip: you can stealth tap under the desk)
  • Relationships/family conflicts
  • Sports performance

Videos demonstrating the efficacy of EFT:

EFT is an evidence based stress management technique

EFT has been researched in more than 10 countries, by more than 60 investigators, whose results have been published in more than 20 different peer-reviewed journals. Here is a link to five papers on its use with students.

Catherine and Falguni have both taught tapping to their children to help them: feel empowered in relationships with others at school, reduce fears about a past accident on the school bus, recover from meltdown before GCSEs, understand the reasons for their procrastination to finally complete important assignments, overcome insomnia to get sleep the night before the SAT, and deal with friendship woes.
In turn, they have taught it to their friends to reduce opening night jitters and to feel calmly confident against a very tall basketball opponent!

EFT is quick and easy to learn. We will keep the group capped at eight to ensure each participant gets ample time and practice.

Please feel free to get in touch with Falguni or Catherine with any questions or concerns. We look forward to sharing tapping with your kids!

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in Oct/Nov for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Reservations taken first come, first served with full payment to HSBC 608 216651 888 by 11th September (please email or Whatsapp the receipt so we may attribute it to you). Minimum four persons to proceed.

facilitated by
Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Stay or Run? Dealing with Discomfort

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Sitting with emotional discomfort is difficult. We all have strategies to cope with/run from emotional pain.

This is not surprising, as usually, this is what we have been taught, albeit unintentionally. Don’t cry, have a sweet; don’t be sad; stop making such a fuss; it’s not so bad; just get on with it… sound familiar? Not only do we not like feeling pain, we don’t like to see loved ones in pain either, which is often the origin of these sentiments. And having learned this as children, it becomes how we act from our subconscious space as adults.

However, true freedom ultimately comes from embracing our emotional pain, from sitting with the discomfort. This requires awareness, and patience with ourselves, as we reprogram our reflexes – to hurt, pain, anger, stress – into mindful reactions.

In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown (Ph.D., LMSW), research professor & author says: “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy… Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as ‘tapping’) effectively releases negative feelings and emotions that have been impacting people for years, and helps to instil new beliefs which lead to more conducive ways of living. We open up to enhanced states of well being, and feel better, work better, live better. Watch a video or read more about EFT here.

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Cravings : When the Mind is Hungry

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The title of this article does not refer to craving intellectual pursuits, but to that intense desire to keep eating a specific food after our hunger pangs have been satisfied.

There’s a real distinction – cravings are not the same as hunger:

  • Hunger is regulated by the body, while cravings are dictated by the mind.
  • Hunger is usually a general need for food while cravings can be for very specific foods
  • Hunger is about surviving physically. Cravings are often about surviving emotionally

Seen in this light, cravings are not the actual problem,
they are merely symptoms of underlying issues.

Some of these could be:

Association
This is when we link certain foods with certain activities. For example, you could be perfectly happy reading a book for hours on end but as soon as you turn on the television your mind goes to the kitchen. Or as soon as you come home from work you reach for a glass of wine. As soon as you have the kids in bed you feel the need for cake. Etc.

Procrastination
Write this report, or get a snack?
Do the laundry? Hmmm I feel hungry, I’ll just have a bag of chips first.

Boredom
This is a popular time for cravings to surface. God forbid we have to sit with ourselves for a few minutes.

Emotional States – Comfort/Distraction
Food often gives us comfort, and when we experience intense negative feelings, we can reach for food to feel soothed. This is especially true if, as children, we were given food to calm and quiet us by well meaning caregivers.
Loneliness, Anger, Sadness, Guilt, Depression, etc., these are all states that can feel very uncomfortable. Not many of us have been taught to sit with discomfort and see ourselves through, so food becomes an instant comforter. As well as a distraction from the discomfort.

Physical States
Certain foods, like sugar, can trigger an increase in our endorphin levels, serving to boost our moods and make us feel happier. So though sugary foods may result in instant happiness, it is short lived, and fails to address the real cause of the negative feeling that we are experiencing.

Then the guilt/criticism etc. that we may feel as a result of having eaten the desired food ends up making us feel worse in the long run.

The reasons why we intensely crave certain foods at certain times are different for everyone.

What’s your reason? Here’s one way to find out:

The next time your mind prompts you to reach for the food you crave, do this : just pause. Go ahead and eat it, but just pause for a few moments before you reach for it.

In that pause, ask yourself what you’re feeling. Become aware of the reason behind the craving in that particular moment.

You may be surprised to discover every time you stop to do this that the reasons are not always the same! One time it may be sheer boredom, another time may be anxiety, and the next time you may be trying to avoid feeling sad.

See for yourself. What’s under your craving?
That’s the issue that needs addressing, should you wish to do so.


Notes on Willpower

If cravings come upon us in times of stress, when we are not feeling our best, when we are tired, how on earth are we going to summon reserves of willpower to stave off eating the very foods we think are going to bring us comfort in those times?
How sustainable is it?
How guilty/bad/ashamed/weak/etc. do we feel if we “give in”?

A study conducted by Hertfordshire University (2007) found that women who tried to stop thinking about eating chocolate ended up eating 50% more than those who actually talked about their cravings*


Trying to cut out all thoughts of your favourite, fattening food may actually make you eat more!

* Source : BBC News

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Counselling Hong Kong, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) therapy Hong Kong

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Live your best life!

Are you living your best life? If not, what’s getting in the way?

Let me help you resolve stress, increase confidence, and live a life that is meaningful and satisfying to you.

Specialising in relief from chronic issues and recovery from trauma, I also help with anxiety and panic attacks, confidence, relationship problems, parenting stress, grief and loss, performance issues, public speaking, phobias, personal crisis, life transitions and finding direction including a career change.

Integrative Therapy

My therapeutic approach is integrative, which means I use a combination of body-oriented therapies with traditional talk therapy in my practice. Research shows that ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies; that both somatic therapies as well as cognitive approaches are essential for healing, recovering and making positive life changes.

In my experience, no single form of therapy is apt, or even adequate in all situations, and my integrative approach allows me to meet your specific and individual needs in our work together.

I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.


Falguni Mather, Counselling, EFT, Hong Kong

Individual Sessions :

Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to work with you, so you can connect to, and use your inner resources, allowing you to live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

Book a Session

Physical symptoms, Chronic Pain:

My integrative body-mind-social approach enables me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re experiencing chronic symptoms and can’t find relief, chances are there are underlying unresolved aspects. I work together with you to reveal triggers and work with pain so you can release energy and stuck tension in the body to allow your body to heal. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”

Workshops & Support Groups:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Sharing and listening to others can also help to know you’re not alone in your struggles. All groups and workshops are completely confidential. Consider attending the 6 Week Well-being programmme or the drop-in online EFT Tapping Groups. You could also get together a group in your workplace or community. A cost-effective way of accessing support.


“We shall not cease from exploration,
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we stand
And know the place for the first time”
– T.S. Eliot


I hold a Masters in Counselling (Australia), am an Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner and Trainer (NQT) with EFT International, a META-Health Master Practitioner with MHI, and a registered yoga teacher (RYT®) with Yoga Alliance.
Member of EFTi, MHI, The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).

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