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Teens Learn EFT Tapping for the New School Year

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EFT Tapping for Teens: reduce stress and build resilience

Teens learn Tapping An accelerated learning module on EFT for students ages 15-18 – helping them reduce stress and build resilience.
facilitated by Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in October/ November for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Setting and achieving goals for teenagers at this time of life can be stressful and time is scarce!

In two 90 minute sessions, teens will learn and practice the EFT Tapping technique and save many hours spent worrying, feeling upset or procrastinating on assignments and school work.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), or tapping, is a self-applied stress management tool that can help with:

  • Fear of failure
  • Perfectionism
  • Low moods
  • Lack of confidence
  • Procrastination
  • Worries about the future
  • Insomnia
  • Exam stress (tip: you can stealth tap under the desk)
  • Relationships/family conflicts
  • Sports performance

Videos demonstrating the efficacy of EFT:

EFT is an evidence based stress management technique

EFT has been researched in more than 10 countries, by more than 60 investigators, whose results have been published in more than 20 different peer-reviewed journals. Here is a link to five papers on its use with students.

Catherine and Falguni have both taught tapping to their children to help them: feel empowered in relationships with others at school, reduce fears about a past accident on the school bus, recover from meltdown before GCSEs, understand the reasons for their procrastination to finally complete important assignments, overcome insomnia to get sleep the night before the SAT, and deal with friendship woes.
In turn, they have taught it to their friends to reduce opening night jitters and to feel calmly confident against a very tall basketball opponent!

EFT is quick and easy to learn. We will keep the group capped at eight to ensure each participant gets ample time and practice.

Please feel free to get in touch with Falguni or Catherine with any questions or concerns. We look forward to sharing tapping with your kids!

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in Oct/Nov for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Reservations taken first come, first served with full payment to HSBC 608 216651 888 by 11th September (please email or Whatsapp the receipt so we may attribute it to you). Minimum four persons to proceed.

facilitated by
Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Confidence and Self-Esteem

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Confidence and Self-Esteem

Confidence and Self-Esteem are terms that are often used interchangeably and can be perceived to be similar in meaning. And one can understand why, by the inherent connection; boosting self-esteem leads to greater confidence. Confidence in one area can lead to confidence in other areas. And greater confidence can sometimes serve to boost one’s self-esteem.

Essentially, however, they have very different meanings.

The word confident stems from the Latin root word fid meaning “faith” and thence confidere, meaning “to have full trust”. So self confidence means faith and trust in self. Trust related to action, our faith in ourselves that we can succeed at doing something. Confidence is ‘domain specific’, which means that you can be confident in one aspect of your life, but not at all confident in another. For example, you could be confident about being a great cook but not at all confident about swimming. “I can effortlessly prepare dinner for 6 people but I can’t swim to save my life!”.

On the other hand, the word esteem derives from the Latin aestimare, meaning “to determine the value of, or appraise”. Self-esteem, therefore, is our appraisal of our own worth. How much we inherently value, and therefore respect ourselves, determines our thoughts, feelings and behaviours, how we relate to others and the external world. Along with how we allow the external to see us and behave toward us.

It’s usually easier to build confidence than to build self-esteem. Being good at something brings rewards and praise, yet it only refers to that at which we excelled. No matter how many awards one receives, it is still possible to feel unlovable. One could also use confidence as a mask; it’s possible to be highly self-confident in certain areas yet internally carry a deep sense of low self-worth. Therapies that address root causes of these feelings, like psychodynamic counselling and EFT, can go a long way in making long term change.

So what does it mean to have a healthy mix of confidence and self esteem? It doesn’t mean we feel good about ourselves all the time, however it does mean that we are more able to adapt to the ups and downs of life. When we value ourselves enough, we also allow ourselves to be valued and respected by others. We have clearer boundaries with people and situations. All of this allows us to be more flexible in our responses to life, no matter what it brings.

Negative Self-Talk is one of the obstacles to self-esteem and confidence.
What are we saying to ourselves? This is a process of awareness, being mindful of what we are thinking.
Very often, our words may have originated from a parent, sibling, teacher, or someone else who had a big impact on us in our childhood. Our power now lies in realising that even though the original voice may have belonged to someone else, it has now become our voice, our self-talk. The good part? If it belongs to us, we can change it.
Only we have the power to change our current limiting beliefs.

Some steps we can take to develop a a healthy mix of confidence and self esteem:

  • Focus on Strengths: We are all capable of doing some things. Focus on what we can do as opposed to things we cannot. A credit for trying. Pats on the back (to ourselves, really!)
  • Seeing the process: Accepting ourselves on the path to improvement, not only when we have achieved our goals.
  • Take Risks: New experiences seen as opportunities to learn rather than win or lose situations. Seen this way, we open ourselves up to new possibilities. Otherwise, we turn every new choice into a possibility for failure, and stand in the way of our own personal growth.
  • Become aware of our self-talk: Only when we know what we are thinking can we start to change it. For example, when we catch ourselves expecting perfection, reminding ourselves that we can’t do everything perfectly (no one actually can), that it’s only possible to try to do things in the best possible way. This allows us to accept ourselves in this moment, while still striving to improve.
  • Self-Evaluate: Learning to assess our own achievements. Over-dependence on others’ opinions only results in confusion and indecisions. Focusing on how we feel about our work/behaviour/project etc., gives us a stronger sense of self. Our power is ours. Developing our intuition is a good way to access how we feel about situations/people/ourselves.

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

ConfidenceWhat would you do differently in your life with an improved sense of confidence and self-esteem?

Get in touch with me for a free 20 minute consultation or to book a session:

By e-mail falguni@freeingemotions.com
Use the Online Contact Form

Counselling Hong Kong, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) therapy Hong Kong

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Live your best life!

Are you living your best life? If not, what’s getting in the way?

Let me help you resolve stress, increase confidence, and live a life that is meaningful and satisfying to you.

Specialising in relief from chronic issues and recovery from trauma, I also help with anxiety and panic attacks, confidence, relationship problems, parenting stress, grief and loss, performance issues, public speaking, phobias, personal crisis, life transitions and finding direction including a career change.

Integrative Therapy

My therapeutic approach is integrative, which means I use a combination of body-oriented therapies with traditional talk therapy in my practice. Research shows that ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies; that both somatic therapies as well as cognitive approaches are essential for healing, recovering and making positive life changes.

In my experience, no single form of therapy is apt, or even adequate in all situations, and my integrative approach allows me to meet your specific and individual needs in our work together.

I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.


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Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to work with you, so you can connect to, and use your inner resources, allowing you to live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

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Physical symptoms, Chronic Pain:

My integrative body-mind-social approach enables me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re experiencing chronic symptoms and can’t find relief, chances are there are underlying unresolved aspects. I work together with you to reveal triggers and work with pain so you can release energy and stuck tension in the body to allow your body to heal. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”

Workshops & Support Groups:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Sharing and listening to others can also help to know you’re not alone in your struggles. All groups and workshops are completely confidential. Consider attending the 6 Week Well-being programmme or the drop-in online EFT Tapping Groups. You could also get together a group in your workplace or community. A cost-effective way of accessing support.


“We shall not cease from exploration,
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we stand
And know the place for the first time”
– T.S. Eliot


I hold a Masters in Counselling (Australia), am an Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner and Trainer (NQT) with EFT International, a META-Health Master Practitioner with MHI, and a registered yoga teacher (RYT®) with Yoga Alliance.
Member of EFTi, MHI, The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).

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