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I’m stressed, I’m fine, I’m anxious

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Do you use words like stressed, fine, anxious, bad, good or okay to describe how you feel?

Research is showing that even naming or labelling your emotions starts to calm down the nervous system, and people who are able to put their emotions into words with some specificity are less likely to be overwhelmed in stressful situations.

Anxious is not an emotion. If you were to get specific about your emotional state when you feel anxious, what would you come up with? Nervous? Worried? Scared? Afraid?

A study found that individuals who were able to recount a difficult situation in a journal and precisely pinpoint the emotions that arose, seemed to experience less stress and coped better, compared to those who were less able to be specific and differentiate their emotional responses.

Emotional granularity isn’t just about having a rich vocabulary; it’s about experiencing the world, and yourself, with more nuance, more precisely. This can make a difference in your life. There is growing scientific evidence that precisely tailored emotional experiences are good for you, even when describing negative experiences, as evidenced by this study: Unpacking Emotion Differentiation: Transforming Unpleasant Experience by Perceiving Distinctions in Negativity

Emot A great way to expand your emotional vocabulary at the start is to have a list of emotional states to refer to. Have a look at the Emotion Wheel from Junto Institute. It helps to get very precise with mood states.

If you use EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), this emotional vocabulary really helps to get specific! Use it the next time you create your EFT Setup Statement and notice what’s different.

Consider attending one of my workshops on Emotional health to learn how acknowledging and mobilising emotions regulates interactions, physical health, and our responses to daily stress. Learn to use your emotions as your guideposts rather than something to manage or control.

Next time instead of stressed, anxious, fine or okay, notice your specific feelings. Maybe you don’t just feel good, maybe you feel cheerful and happy!

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EFT tapping group online (free)

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EFT tapping group – online @ no charge

This session will be online on Zoom.
Click here to see dates/times and Book online REGISTER to receive the link to join.

You’re welcome to join these complimentary online EFT tapping groups as support through these uncertain and challenging times. Even though this stressful environment is similar for all of us globally, everyone is affected in their own singular way.

The intention of this EFT tapping group is to reduce stress, access calm and gain clarity.

Open to all (over 18 years).

Whether you’re familiar with the EFT tapping technique or not, join these groups to learn basic EFT tapping for self-care or as an opportunity to practice your tapping skills.

Each session has a specific topic, some of which are:

  • Stress reduction
  • Pain or tension in the body
  • Setting boundaries
  • Letting go of Guilt
  • Decision making
  • Dealing with isolation
  • …and you’re welcome to suggest topics, too

EFT tapping can help to calm the nervous system, release tension, reduce stress and anxiety and improve sleep patterns.

If this is your first time experiencing EFT, watch a brief EFT Tapping Demonstration in my video.

See the registration page for days/times of all sessions. If these date/times don’t suit you, have a look at other EFT Support groups being offered by other EFT International Practitioners and Trainers.

EFT Tapping Group online FREE

60 minutes. Online. Free of charge.
See registration page for days/times.
Book online
REGISTER to receive the link to join.

Send me an email if you have any questions.


Accredited-Trainer-Seal EFTiEFT groups facilitated by Falguni Mather, Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner, Trainer and Mentor with EFT International.


What I love about EFT is that although it is highly effective with deep work when facilitated by a therapist (chronic pain, all types of trauma including developmental and PTSD, and self-esteem issues), it functions powerfully as a self-help technique. I have been facilitating EFT groups for over 10 years and when we have such a simple yet effective tool that can be used anywhere and any time (no need for space or quiet or yoga mat or an empty room), it can be extremely empowering.

Participant comments:
“I love tapping in a group, Falguni brings it together nicely.”

“Group tapping makes me calm, somehow my day is better after that.”

“I didn’t know tapping can help pain. I like the group when we tap for pain, my shoulder is much better even the next day.”

“Because of attending the group EFT I feel more confident to use EFT more with myself.”


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Grief

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That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief

This article in the Harvard Business Review by Scott Berinato, speaks evocatively of grief, an emotion generally difficult to access in all its forms. It often surfaces in its forms of sadness and loss after working with the more apparent feelings of worry, fear, frustration, annoyance, anger.

This is very apparent to me as a psychotherapist when working with clients who present with anxiety, fear, panic attacks, anger issues. These layers of emotions surface consistently thanks to the effectiveness of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), which I integrate into my practice along with talk therapy.

David Kessler says in the article, “Acceptance, as you might imagine, is where the power lies”. He’s absolutely right, and acceptance is the first port of call and a powerful aspect of EFT (Emotional freedom Techniques).

Kessler also talks about coming “into the present” to deal with the pain of grief. When we use EFT we focus on noticing how we are feeling right now, which brings us into the present very quickly.

In my experience there is nothing as powerfully effective as EFT to help access feelings and process our emotions. EFT is my answer to the ‘HOW’ asked in the article.

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EFT & Meditation Hour for self care

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EFT and Guided Meditation

I’m offering this session free of charge in April & May 2020. Online.
Friday 7:30am HKT / Thurs 7:30pm EST / Thurs 4:30pm PDT (see the time in your time zone).
Click here to sign up.

Group EFT tapping followed by a guided meditation to build a strong sense of connection to self. Access your emotional energy to release tension, get grounded and and find complete calm in your body and mind.

Experience the power of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and “borrow benefits” as we tap together in a small group. Tapping helps calm the nervous system, release tension and reduce the intensity of uncomfortable thoughts and feelings in the mind and body.

We end with a meditation, either sitting or laying down. The meditation is guided, helping you to
– feel more centred
– access safety and comfort in your body
– connect with self
– be at ease in your physical and emotional body.
Helping you to be grounded and calm to increase your sense of vitality & aliveness.

Access a more grounded sense of self to feel calm, collected and confident. Notice how tapping before meditation helps you to be more present and relax deeper.

EFT and meditation hour

HKD $180
Please see the calendar for dates and venue details. (I’m offering this session free of charge, weekly, in April & May 2020. Sign up here).

Send me an email with questions or for more info.


Accredited-Advanced-Practitioner EFTiThis group class is facilitated by Falguni Mather, qualified Counsellor, yoga teacher and an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International.

Teens Learn EFT Tapping for the New School Year

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EFT Tapping for Teens: reduce stress and build resilience

Teens learn Tapping An accelerated learning module on EFT for students ages 15-18 – helping them reduce stress and build resilience.
facilitated by Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in October/ November for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Setting and achieving goals for teenagers at this time of life can be stressful and time is scarce!

In two 90 minute sessions, teens will learn and practice the EFT Tapping technique and save many hours spent worrying, feeling upset or procrastinating on assignments and school work.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), or tapping, is a self-applied stress management tool that can help with:

  • Fear of failure
  • Perfectionism
  • Low moods
  • Lack of confidence
  • Procrastination
  • Worries about the future
  • Insomnia
  • Exam stress (tip: you can stealth tap under the desk)
  • Relationships/family conflicts
  • Sports performance

Videos demonstrating the efficacy of EFT:

EFT is an evidence based stress management technique

EFT has been researched in more than 10 countries, by more than 60 investigators, whose results have been published in more than 20 different peer-reviewed journals. Here is a link to five papers on its use with students.

Catherine and Falguni have both taught tapping to their children to help them: feel empowered in relationships with others at school, reduce fears about a past accident on the school bus, recover from meltdown before GCSEs, understand the reasons for their procrastination to finally complete important assignments, overcome insomnia to get sleep the night before the SAT, and deal with friendship woes.
In turn, they have taught it to their friends to reduce opening night jitters and to feel calmly confident against a very tall basketball opponent!

EFT is quick and easy to learn. We will keep the group capped at eight to ensure each participant gets ample time and practice.

Please feel free to get in touch with Falguni or Catherine with any questions or concerns. We look forward to sharing tapping with your kids!

Date & Time: 25th and 27th September 2019, 5:30-7:00pm
Location: The Body Group, 14/F Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK.
Zoom Follow-ups — one 45 min session will be scheduled in Oct/Nov for ongoing support.
Fee: HK$ 1,380.

Reservations taken first come, first served with full payment to HSBC 608 216651 888 by 11th September (please email or Whatsapp the receipt so we may attribute it to you). Minimum four persons to proceed.

facilitated by
Falguni Mather – Counsellor, Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner and
Catherine Banson – certified in EFT and authorized instructor of Parent Effectiveness Training & Youth Effectiveness Training

Conscious Parenting workshop

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Parenting with a difference!

Conscious Parenting with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
facilitated by Falguni Mather, MCouns., Counsellor
Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner and Trainer, NQT with EFT International

Date: Monday 7th September
Time: 10:00 am – 4:00 pm
Venue: The Body Group, Central, HK
Fee: $1,450 / person
Please call The Body Group directly on 2167-7305 to book your space.

Conscious Parenting workshopFrom homework, bed time, sibling rivalry and bullying issues to leaving for university, dating, and beyond – parenting can be an emotional roller coaster no matter how old your children are, bringing the stress of frustration, worry, guilt, and even self doubt.

Parenting is one of the toughest and most important jobs in the world and yet we get no formal training; we often parent from the unconscious basis of our own experience.


Did you know that your own inner child has a role in your parenting style?
Learn to notice how your own internal patterns are impacting your relationship with your child.

“ Your own life as a child is one of the strongest influences on how you parent today” – Robin Grille, Psychologist, Parenting Educator

This workshop focuses on creating an authentic connection with your child vs. managing your child’s behaviour. Based on decades of research which shows that a strong and healthy bond with your child is the foundation needed for him or her to be self-assured, empathic and resilient.


As a parent myself, I know how stress can build up and affect all the family members. Learning to parent “consciously” has been life-changing for me as a parent. The EFT technique has been invaluable in my journey as a parent, allowing me to have a loving and connected relationship with my children who are now 17 and 21 years old. I am passionate about sharing my work with all parents out there because I know this works.

Spend less time stressing and more time loving. Learn the EFT technique for your own stress and worries, as well as how to teach it to your children. Plus listening skills, building rapport and developing empathy.

This workshop will address:

  • Calming young children having strong emotional feelings
  • Dealing with nightmares and fears
  • Issues with friends, bullying, isolation, feeling left out
  • Aches and pains
  • School/University stress, confidence, performance anxiety
  • Moving school, home or country
  • Helping children of all ages deal with stress in their lives

Helpful for you as a parent to address:

  • Building a closer bond and connection with your child
  • Recognising fears vs. values
  • Frustration with sibling rivalry, child’s behaviour
  • Anger with children
  • Exhaustion as a parent
  • Feeling like a bad parent
  • Not feeling connected to your child/children
  • Helpless with helping your child
  • Feeling alone as a parent

Learn to be consciously present with your children, recognise their needs, so they can effectively deal with life’s challenges and have the confidence and resilience to pursue their dreams.

“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents.” – Carl Jung

Parenting a teenager

See the calendar for dates.
Time: 10:00 am – 4:00 pm
Venue: The Body Group, Central HK
Fee: $1,450 / person

Facilitated by Falguni Mather, MCouns., Counsellor, Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner and Trainer, NQT with EFT International

Call The Body Group directly on 2167-7305 to book your space. or send me an email falguni@freeingemotions.com to sign up.

6 Week EFT for Well-being Programme

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EFT for Well-Being Programme: 6 sessions in 6 weeks

This programme currently runs online. Please check the calendar for dates.
Request to join. Once you’ve been accepted into this 6 week programme you can book online.

Are you interested in maximising your well-being?

It’s so much easier sometimes to get by in life using the same old coping mechanisms. We know how to cope and get on with life and that’s how most of us live. But why cope with life when you could live fully, with more energy and vitality? Life will constantly throw things at us; having the resilience to respond with equanimity and clarity is what determines our well-being.

Sharing your stresses in a group, even the daily small frustrations, can be profoundly supportive; it can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light, bringing new solutions and connections with the group members.

Send a request to join this 6 week programme

It felt so good to know I am not the only one with all the small problems! I feel like a normal person and lighter, also! Thanks.

This closed group has the same members every week for 6 weeks (max. 5 people). We practice EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), grounding and breath exercises, self-compassion and mindfulness as we reflect within the confidential group space.

You will come away with practical tools and strategies to implement into your busy daily life.

Bring any issues you know are weighing you down, limiting you or holding you back – be open to receiving support, discovering your strengths and feeling lighter.

A cost effective option compared to individual sessions.

Each group accommodates a maximum of 5 people and runs once a week over 6 consecutive weeks. This EFT for well-being programme runs in person as well as online. Please check the calendar for dates and venues.

Each session is 120 minutes (2 hours)
Cost HKD $2,880 for 6 weeks ($480/2 hr session)

Send an email request to join. Once you’ve been accepted into this 6 week programme you can book online.

Through working on an issue weekly over a 6-week period, I was able to go deeper into the area I wanted to work on and have more time in between sessions to observe my behaviour. Over the 6 weeks, I found myself more easily accessing the deeper feelings that were driving behaviours that I wanted to change. I can now better recognise when those feelings are being activated, and I am hoping that over time this will allow me to respond in a way I am happier with, more consistently.