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Breath Work

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Breath Work

Breath awareness is an integral part of releasing stress and anxiety.

When we feel anxious, panicky, or even unconsciously stressed, we tend to take short breaths (called shallow breathing or chest breathing). As a result, our body doesn’t receive enough oxygen, which limits blood flow to important organs and creates tension in our muscles and joints.
This is a physiological reaction to perceived external danger, so when we continuously take shallow breaths we are actually sending signals to our body that we are under threat.

Anything from being stuck in a traffic jam or standing in a long queue, to feeling claustrophobic in a crowded space or even remembering a past traumatic event, can make us anxious and put us into stress mode. Our minds can perceive these situations as threatening/stressful and our body reacts to our thought patterns.

It is imperative to start becoming aware of when we are putting ourselves into stress mode, as these are usually subconscious reactions.

When we breathe full, deep breaths using the full capacity of our lungs, not only are we nourishing our cells with more oxygen, but we are sending calming signals to our body. In the same way that stressful thoughts in our subconscious mind can create negative changes in our physical body, initiating conscious changes (breathing) in our body can create a calmer state of mind.

Stressful thoughts = shallow breath & tightness in muscles
Deep, full breaths = calmer mind + calmer body

To explain the intrinsic connection between the body and mind, Dr. James Gordon, Director and Founder, Center for Mind-Body Medicine, says : “the brain and peripheral nervous system, the endocrine and immune systems, and indeed, all the organs of our body and all the emotional responses we have, share a common chemical language and are constantly communicating with one another.”

There are many breathing techniques and exercises that we can use to release stress from our body & mind. The first step, as always, is to be mindful, to become aware. Only then can we pause and step back before we can breathe our way to a sense of calm and to new perspectives.

“Correct and conscious breath is the first and most simple step toward releasing stress and anxiety.”

Shallow breatherHow would you like to learn to let go of stress and anxiety from your mind and body?

Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:

By phone (852) 6444 0952
By e-mail falguni@mather.com
Use the Online Contact Form

Trauma

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Trauma

According to the American Psychological Association:
Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives.

Having worked with clients from all walks of life who have suffered some form of trauma (including refugees from Africa, the headmistress of a school and a businessman, among others), it is apparent that it is an individual’s subjective experience that determines whether an event is or is not traumatic.

TraumaJon Allen, psychologist and author of Coping with Trauma: A Guide to Self-Understanding says that “Psychologically, the bottom line of trauma is overwhelming emotion and a feeling of utter helplessness. There may or may not be bodily injury, but psychological trauma is coupled with physiological upheaval that plays a leading role in the long-range effects”.

Basically, trauma is determined by the experiences and resilience of the survivor. Different people could experience the same event where one undergoes severe trauma and another remains psychologically uninjured. Therefore it is not the event that defines the trauma but the emotional and psychological make up of the individual.

Additionally, specific aspects of a situation or event will affect each person differently. Which is why addressing individual root causes of trauma will result in more long-term healing effects.

While it may be apparent what it feels like to live with the consequences of past trauma on a daily basis, we don’t usually have the information we need to understand what exactly transpired in our minds and bodies at the time of the trauma. We suffer mental, emotional and physical symptoms as a direct consequence of how the trauma changed the development of our body-mind.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) coupled with counselling has proved effective in providing true emotional freedom from all types of trauma; accidents, injury, childhood trauma, abuse, PTSD, rape, sudden loss or bereavement.

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives”

stress from traumaHow would you move forward in your life if you could deal with and resolve your trauma?

Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:

By phone (852) 6444 0952
By e-mail falguni@mather.com
Use the Online Contact Form

Integrative Counselling Hong Kong, EFT therapy Hong Kong

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Are you living your best life? If not, what's stopping you?

I provide integrative counselling for individual adults and adolescents. Sometimes you just need to talk, even if you don’t know where to start or what the problem is. My approach is to create a safe, supportive, non-judgemental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.

My practice as a counsellor focuses on a mind-body-social approach to therapy. I combine EFT tapping and somatic therapies with traditional talk therapy to assist you in resolving your difficulties.

I offer an integrative approach as every person is different and this allows me to be flexible, tailoring sessions to individual needs. Research has shown that we have two distinct levels of awareness, embodied (physical body) and conceptual (mental structure, e.g., thoughts). I listen to both, the the narrative as well as the stress held in the body, and work together with you to come to the best possible outcome for you in the present.

I can help you work through stress, anger, low moods, low self-esteem, job related stress, phobias, grief, loss, old or recent trauma as well as unresolved childhood issues, and any other emotional blocks which may feel overwhelming or are keeping you stuck.

Ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies. I also work with uncovering root causes of physical symptoms and any unconscious triggers which may be keeping symptoms chronic, and work with you to find resolution for optimal well being.


Falguni Mather, Counselling, EFT, Hong Kong

Private Sessions :

Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to get you to connect to, and use, your inner resources, so you can move from a place of discomfort to one of positive transformation.

Workshops:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light, resulting in new solutions. Furthermore, working in groups can ease a sense of isolation as it can build connection with the other members. The same as individual sessions, group sessions and workshops are also confidential. Consider attending my monthly EFT tapping circle or organising a group for people experiencing similar issues. This is also a cost effective way of accessing support.


I hold a Masters in Counselling from Monash University, Australia.
A member of The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA), I adhere to their code of ethics.