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Let your breath be your guide

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When we feel anxious, panicky, or even unconsciously stressed, we tend to take short breaths (called shallow breathing or chest breathing). As a result, our body doesn’t receive enough oxygen, which limits blood flow to important organs and creates tension in our muscles and joints.
This is a physiological reaction to perceived external danger, so when we continuously take shallow breaths we are actually sending signals to our body that we are under threat.

Anything from being stuck in a traffic jam or standing in a long queue, to feeling claustrophobic in a crowded space or even remembering a past traumatic event, can make us anxious and put us into stress mode. Our minds can perceive these situations as threatening/stressful and our body reacts to our thought patterns.

It is imperative to start becoming aware of when we are putting ourselves into stress mode, as these are usually subconscious reactions.

When we breathe full, deep breaths using the full capacity of our lungs, not only are we nourishing our cells with more oxygen, but we are sending calming signals to our body.

In the same way that stressful thoughts in our subconscious mind can create negative changes in our physical body, initiating conscious changes (breathing) in our body can create a calmer state of mind.

  • Stressful thoughts = shallow breath & tightness in muscles
  • Deep, full breaths = calmer mind + calmer body

Harvard cardiologist Herbert Benson, MD, identified the flip side of the stress response, which he called the “relaxation response.” Benson demonstrated that meditation, yoga, and other relaxation techniques can bring about physiological changes including a lower heart rate, lower breathing rate, and decreased muscle tension along with positive changes in brain waves. Mind-body techniques that elicit this relaxation response have been successful in treating many stress-related disorders.

Correct and conscious breath is the first and most simple step toward releasing stress and anxiety.


Try this exercise:
To find out how you are breathing, place one hand on your chest and the other on your abdomen. On every inhale, notice your chest rising. Notice your abdomen too – does it move?

  • If it doesn’t, then your breath is shallow.
  • If your abdomen moves in on an inhale, your breath is inverted (and still shallow).
  • If your chest as well as your abdomen rise when you breathe in, you are breathing good, relaxed breaths – well done!

If you find it difficult to breathe into your abdomen, try this:

  • Try to imagine that your abdomen is like a balloon
  • As you breathe in slowly, let the air fill up your abdomen as if you are filling a balloon with air, letting your abdomen rise before your chest
  • As you exhale, let your chest go in then your abdomen, as if deflating the balloon
  • Do this exercise 3 – 4 times and feel your body become calm.

There are many breathing techniques and exercises that we can use to release stress from our body & mind. The first step, as always, is to be mindful, to become aware. Only then can we pause and step back before we can breathe our way to a sense of calm and to new perspectives.

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Counselling

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Counselling therapy

Life comes with ups as well as downs for all of us, and while we are usually good at processing the happiness and joys of life, we sometimes have trouble dealing with the downs. Talking with friends and family is helpful, but there are times when those closest to us make it difficult for us to hear our own voice. Getting many differing opinions may also lead to confusion and additional stress.

Counselling offers a safe and confidential space for you to voice your concerns and difficulties while being heard. A space in which you can stand back from your everyday life and reflect on what you might wish to do to change things to make them better. A counsellor is supportive and non-judgemental, someone who strives to understand thoughts and feelings from your point of view.

People seek counselling for a wide variety of reasons:

  • Stressful or distressing experiences, currently or in the past, even in childhood, which need to be shared in a safe environment. These may include relocation to a new city, separation or divorce, loss of a loved one, an accident, or even witnessing something traumatic that is difficult to recover from.
  • A desire to change certain behaviours, like food cravings or addictions, excessive anger, overwhelming or uncontrollable thoughts, or certain social behaviours.
  • Support through a serious illness.
  • Feelings of depression or anxiety.
  • Feeling uncertain about a change in life path/career.
  • Counselling also serves as a guide for personal development, to expand awareness and grow into one’s full potential, and so can be beneficial for anyone.

As your counsellor I listen, and help you connect to your inner resources, so you can cope with and overcome any challenges you are experiencing and live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.”

Counselling with FalguniAre you living your best life? If not, what’s stopping you?

Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:

By phone (852) 6444 0952
By e-mail falguni@freeingemotions.com
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Trauma

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Trauma

According to the American Psychological Association:
Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives.

Having worked with clients from all walks of life who have suffered some form of trauma (including refugees from Africa, the headmistress of a school and a businessman, among others), it is apparent that it is an individual’s subjective experience that determines whether an event is or is not traumatic.

Trauma
Jon Allen, psychologist and author of Coping with Trauma: A Guide to Self-Understanding says that “Psychologically, the bottom line of trauma is overwhelming emotion and a feeling of utter helplessness. There may or may not be bodily injury, but psychological trauma is coupled with physiological upheaval that plays a leading role in the long-range effects”.

Basically, trauma is determined by the experiences and resilience of the survivor. Different people could experience the same event where one undergoes severe trauma and another remains psychologically uninjured. Therefore it is not the event that defines the trauma but the emotional and psychological make up of the individual.

Additionally, specific aspects of a situation or event will affect each person differently. Which is why addressing individual root causes of trauma will result in more long-term healing effects.

While it may be apparent what it feels like to live with the consequences of past trauma on a daily basis, we don’t usually have the information we need to understand what exactly transpired in our minds and bodies at the time of the trauma. We suffer mental, emotional and physical symptoms as a direct consequence of how the trauma changed the development of our body-mind.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) coupled with counselling has proved effective in providing true emotional freedom from all types of trauma; accidents, injury, childhood trauma, abuse, PTSD, rape, sudden loss or bereavement.

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives”

stress from traumaHow would you move forward in your life if you could deal with and resolve the trauma you have experienced?

Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:

By phone (852) 6444 0952
By e-mail falguni@freeingemotions.com
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Phobias and Fears

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Phobias and Fears

Big or small, fears and phobias are like roadblocks in our lives. Our lives get smaller based on these limitations, keeping us from living our lives to the fullest.

Big fears, like not being able to ride in lifts, or fly in planes, are apparent in their limitations, and when overcome, create visible, life changing shifts.

Phobias However, there are also the less obvious fears that we carry around with us. These are the things we procrastinate about, feel slightly anxious about, the ones that we are so used to that they even feel comfortable. They have become part of who we are.

Most people have an irrational fears about something, for example, cockroaches, bees, or a visit to the dentist. These fears are usually relatively small and don’t impede our lives in big ways. When little fears become so extreme that they cause immense anxiety and interfere with our functioning in life, they are called phobias. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) works efficiently to manage and resolve fears and phobias, big or small.

Having helped many clients overcome fears and phobias that they have been holding on to for years, I would love to help you to overcome any limits so you can live your life with renewed confidence.

freedom from fears and phobiasWhat more could you do with your life if you could let go of your fears or phobias?

Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:

By phone (852) 6444 0952
By e-mail falguni@freeingemotions.com
Use the Online Contact Form


Testimonial:
“I have overcome my fear of cockroaches. Panic, a rush of blood, hastened breathing, anxiety, a constriction, a breathlessness. My fear of cockroaches may be laughable to some, to me, it was real and terrifying. 47 long years I bore with it. Whew!!! now, it’s gone.

Falguni’s warm, nurturing manner, her completely non-judgemental attitude and her unique ability to be able to look at different perspectives effortlessly make sessions with her a treat. And make her a healer-therapist who’s hard to come by. A rare gem.” – L.D., Mumbai, India

How are you Breathing?

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“Hello. How are you breathing today?”

Quality of breath = State of being

Our fast paced lives have turned us into shallow breathers. Check your breath now: how are you breathing?
Take a deep inhale all the way down to your abdomen.
Exhale all the way out.
And then do it again.

Deep breathing brings many blessings:

  • Relaxes in the body, reducing feelings of stress and anxiety
  • Improves circulation of blood and oxygen in the body (fewer wrinkles, imagine!)
  • Increases energy, physical and mental
  • Reduces fear and pain
  • Cleanses the blood of toxic stress chemicals
  • Improves power of mental concentration and observation

Breathing is managed subconsciously, which is great because that means we don’t have to remember to breathe. But know that we can send calming signals to our bodymind by taking control and consciously changing how we breathe.

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Counselling, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) therapy Hong Kong

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Are you living your best life? If not, what’s stopping you?

Sometimes you just need to talk, even if you don’t know where to start or what the problem is, exactly. I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.

I specialise in recovery from trauma, relief from chronic pain and grief counselling, and also see clients for stress, anxious feelings, low moods, confidence issues, performance, phobias, life transitions and general well being.

Integrative Counselling
Incorporating the fundamental principles of traditional talk therapy with holistic approaches, my comprehensive approach is geared toward working with the full spectrum of human experience: emotional, mental, physical and spiritual; the whole individual within the community, in relation to the environment.

I firmly believe that ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies, and that both somatic as well as cognitive approaches are important for healing, recovering and making positive life changes.

In my experience no single form of therapy is apt, or even adequate, in all situations, and my integrative approach allows me to meet your specific and individual needs in our work together.


Falguni Mather, Counselling, EFT, Hong Kong

Private Sessions :

Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to work with you, so you can connect to, and use your inner resources, allowing you to live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

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Physical symptoms, Chronic Pain, Illness:

My integrative body-mind-social approach enables me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re suffering from physical symptoms – including chronic pain or illness – and can’t find a solution, chances are there are an underlying unresolved aspects. I’ll be detective and work with you to find root causes that are getting in the way of your well being, so you can release triggers for your acute or chronic symptoms. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”

Workshops & Support Groups:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Clarity brings new solutions. Sharing and listening to others helps to ease a sense of isolation as you build a connection with other members. Same as individual sessions, groups and workshops are confidential. Consider attending my monthly Introduction to EFT Tapping group, the 6 Week Support Group or consider getting together a group in your workplace or community, for people experiencing similar issues. A cost effective way of accessing support.


I hold a Masters in Counselling (Australia), am an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International, a META-Health Master Practitioner with MHI, and a registered yoga teacher (RYT®) with Yoga Alliance.
Member of EFTi, MHI, The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).