Big or small, fears and phobias are like roadblocks in our lives. Our lives get smaller based on these limitations, keeping us from living our lives to the fullest.
Big fears, like not being able to ride in lifts, or fly in planes, are apparent in their limitations, and when overcome, create visible, life changing shifts.
However, there are also the less obvious fears that we carry around with us. These are the things we procrastinate about, feel slightly anxious about, the ones that we are so used to that they even feel comfortable. They have become part of who we are.
Most people have an irrational fears about something, for example, cockroaches, bees, or a visit to the dentist. These fears are usually relatively small and don’t impede our lives in big ways. When little fears become so extreme that they cause immense anxiety and interfere with our functioning in life, they are called phobias. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) works efficiently to manage and resolve fears and phobias, big or small.
Having helped many clients overcome fears and phobias that they have been holding on to for years, I would love to help you to overcome any limits so you can live your life with renewed confidence.
What more could you do with your life if you could let go of your fears or phobias?
Get in touch with me for a consultation or to book a session:
Testimonial: “I have overcome my fear of cockroaches. Panic, a rush of blood, hastened breathing, anxiety, a constriction, a breathlessness. My fear of cockroaches may be laughable to some, to me, it was real and terrifying. 47 long years I bore with it. Whew!!! now, it’s gone.
Falguni’s warm, nurturing manner, her completely non-judgemental attitude and her unique ability to be able to look at different perspectives effortlessly make sessions with her a treat. And make her a healer-therapist who’s hard to come by. A rare gem.” – L.D., Mumbai, India
Venue: The Yoga Room, 6/F Xiu Ping Commercial Building, 104 Jervois Street, Sheung Wan, HK
HK$250/person (bring a friend and pay only $225 each).
What’s getting in the way of your growth?
Fears and phobias can be limiting to one’s life in a number of ways, including those subtle ways, when we are not even aware that our fears are limiting us.
Whether you call them fears or phobias, they can manifest as big or small impediments, and either way, they stop us from reaching our highest potential.
Big fears, like not being able to ride in lifts, or fly in planes, are apparent in their limitations.
However, there are also the less obvious, smaller fears that we carry around with us. These are the things we procrastinate about, feel slightly anxious about, the ones that we are so used to that they even feel comfortable.
Usually we use willpower and discipline to overcome the limits that we are aware of. These may work but are generally short-term. When we address and resolve the root causes, we can completely remove these blocks from our lives, creating a new sense of freedom.
In this workshop, we will discuss issues around fears and phobias, explore causes, and release blocked energies to create positive shifts. Using breath, meditation and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) we will see how we can leave the shackles of fears behind and feel confident and empowered to move forward.
Personal focus: each participant will have a chance to explore his/her particular issue. Take it home: you will be given self-help tools so you can help yourself every day.
EFT is a mind-body technique that is safe, gentle, and non-invasive. It combines a gentle touch with conscious attention while we verbalise our thoughts and feelings. We tap with our fingertips on acupressure points on the hands, face and body while focusing on an issue we wish to resolve.
EFT combines the physical benefits of acupuncture with the cognitive and linguistic benefits of conventional talk therapy. This somatic-cognitive approach addresses the individual as a whole, providing a greater scope to heal, recover and to make positive changes in our lives.
EFT allows us to release and transform uncomfortable feelings like anger, hurt, guilt, fear or grief which may be affecting our daily lives. Using this technique helps to become aware of the negative thoughts and beliefs behind our emotional experiences, so we can change them to more helpful ones.
This powerful technique is often referred to as a psychological version of acupuncture, without the needles. The simple process of tapping on acupressure points on the body while bringing attention to the issue we want to resolve has the effect of changing the intensity of the uncomfortable emotions.
EFT helps with emotional as well as physical pain. Unresolved negative experiences reside as triggers and disruptions in our mind and body. The physical symptoms we feel from those disruptions (for example, tightening of chest, clenched stomach, heart racing, etc), become attached to the memory of that experience and affect the way we see the world, until we clear that disruption. Properly applied, EFT balances our autonomic nervous system and realigns our neural pathways; this disconnects the physical discomfort that we attach to negative feelings and memories, which often helps to remove the original symptoms.
EFT has yielded remarkable results for relieving emotional and physical distress, and often works when nothing else will. Since it does not involve drugs or other medical interventions, it is different from conventional medical approaches, and is beginning to gain wider and wider recognition within the mainstream medical community.
Watch a video introduction to EFT here (by Gary Craig, founder of EFT):
Watch Professor Tony Stewart, a specialist in public health, talking about EFT on BBC News:
EFT has proven effective with a wide range of both physical and emotional issues. EFT Can Help to:
Diminish anxiety and anxious fears and feelings
Release and transform painful, uncomfortable feelings like anger, guilt, grief, fear, etc.
Heal the effects of emotional trauma, including PTSD symptoms
Diminish cravings for foods and addictive substances
Resolve emotional eating and weight issues
Address relationship problems
Gain clarity to make decisions
Relieve symptoms of insomnia
Increase self-esteem, self-empowerment and confidence
Improve or even eliminate chronic physical discomfort or pain
Enhance performance in any area; sports, musical, artistic, professional, sexual, etc.
Resolve financial blocks
Increase energy and productivity
Empower children, parents and families
Benefit the lives of animals
Move us beyond negative, self-limiting thoughts and beliefs toward positive change
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
EFT: News, Science and Research
PTSD Treated Successfully in 10 Sessions or Less: Kaiser Permanente is one of the largest hospital systems in the US, taking care of more than 10 million patients each year. Kaiser’s peer-reviewed publication, The Permanente Journal, recently published practice guidelines for using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) with patients diagnosed with PTSD (Church, Stern et al., 2017).
Larry Burk, M.D., writes about EFT going mainstream, like how the APA has finally granted continuing education credits for psychologists to study EFT tapping, also known as energy psychology.
Nick Ortner, writing for the Huffington Post, talks about the science behind EFT in his article, Breakthroughs in Energy Psychology, citing research which confirms that tapping on specific meridian points has a positive effect on cortisol levels.
Is EFT only an energy based technique?
It is a combination of acupressure, talk therapy and modern psycho-therapeutic tools like NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). The affirmations used in EFT are derived from NLP, and the 9 gamut procedure is similar to the process used in EMDR.
EFT also includes statements on self-acceptance – in therapy, the way we talk to ourselves is one of the most important tools in changing thought and behaviour patterns.
Is EFT safe?
It is completely safe and there are no known negative side effects.
Is EFT a distraction technique?
Distraction is “a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else”. EFT requires a complete focus on the problem or issue throughout the session. Affirmations and reminder phrases are also used to keep a focus on the specific issue.
Why do we affirm the negatives in EFT?
Sometimes people are resistant to focusing on the negative while tapping. Either for fear of feeling the feeling, or fearing this will attract more negativity, or some other similar reason.
But one is already feeling these feelings. By identifying then vocalising them, one is bringing up that energy in the body and clearing the negative feelings, instead of suppressing them and having them subconsciously run one’s life. Expressing the negative statements serves to clear them energetically from the body-mind system.
Once you let go and clear, then you have room to bring in what you choose to feel instead. EFT brings one’s energy back to balance so negative feelings don’t stay there.
Are you living your best life? If not, what’s stopping you?
Sometimes you just need to talk, even if you don’t know where to start or what the problem is, exactly. I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.
I specialise in recovery from trauma, relief from chronic pain and grief counselling, and also see clients for stress, anxious feelings, low moods, confidence issues, performance, phobias, life transitions and general well being.
Incorporating the fundamental principles of traditional talk therapy with holistic approaches, my comprehensive approach is geared toward working with the full spectrum of human experience: emotional, mental, physical and spiritual; the whole individual within the community, in relation to the environment.
I firmly believe that ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies, and that both somatic as well as cognitive approaches are important for healing, recovering and making positive life changes.
In my experience no single form of therapy is apt, or even adequate, in all situations, and my integrative approach allows me to meet your specific and individual needs in our work together.
Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to work with you, so you can connect to, and use your inner resources, allowing you to live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.
My integrative body-mind-social approach enables me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re suffering from physical symptoms – including chronic pain or illness – and can’t find a solution, chances are there are an underlying unresolved aspects. I’ll be detective and work with you to find root causes that are getting in the way of your well being, so you can release triggers for your acute or chronic symptoms. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”
Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Clarity brings new solutions. Sharing and listening to others helps to ease a sense of isolation as you build a connection with other members. Same as individual sessions, groups and workshops are confidential. Consider attending my monthly Introduction to EFT Tapping group, the 6 Week Support Group or consider getting together a group in your workplace or community, for people experiencing similar issues. A cost effective way of accessing support.
I hold a Masters in Counselling (Australia), am an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International, a META-Health Master Practitioner with MHI, and a registered yoga teacher (RYT®) with Yoga Alliance.
Member of EFTi, MHI, The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).