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Upcoming Events and Workshops

  • Introduction to EFT Tapping Group:
    Heard about EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) but haven’t experienced it yet? Curious? In need of a refresher on the technique? You may have seen it in the documentary, HEAL.

    In this introductory group you will experience the EFT tapping technique, and learn how to use it for yourself to help with daily stresses. EFT is not only powerful and effective but also very simple to use.

    I will lead participants through experiential group exercises with EFT tapping, including a brief introduction for those who are new to this technique. See more about EFT by clicking here.

    Daytime 12:45 – 1:45 pm, every other Monday @ The Body Group (click for details)
    Fee: HKD250/person


  • Support Group for Emotional Health : 6 sessions in 6 weeks
    Are you in need of support for self-care, to maximise your emotional well-being?

    Sharing and being supported in a group can be profoundly helpful; it can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light, bringing new solutions as you build connection with the other group members.

    In this closed support group, we practice the EFT tapping technique, grounding and breath exercises, self-compassion and mindfulness as we share our experiences within the confidential group space.

    You will come away with practical tools and strategies to implement into your busy life. Each group accommodates maximum 6 people and runs once a week over 6 weeks.

    Mondays 10:30am – 12pm at The Body Group
    Cost 330/session (1,980 for 6 weeks)
    Sessions starting August 2019: Aug 19, 26 / Sep 2, 9, 16, 23


  • Conscious Parenting Workshop: parenting can be an emotional roller coaster no matter how old your children are.
    parenting a resilient familyParenting need not be stressful when we can parent consciously and mindfully. This workshop is about noticing our patterns, getting ourselves out of our own way, building authentic relationships with our children so they can be self-assured, empathic and resilient.
    Monday 14th October 2019. 10:00 am – 2:00 pm
    @ The Body Group (Central)

    Click here for more details

  • EFT Level I and II Training
    Details for this 3 day training will be updated soon. Stay tuned.
    Date TBC, end 2019

  • Psychic Development with EFT – Levels I and II: Julie Cook & Falguni Mather
    healingDo you ever have déjà vu experiences? Spot-on gut intuition about events? Times when you just know?
    These experiences are simply our intuition at work, a part of us that most of us have been taught to dismiss in a scientific and logic based world. Interested in exploring and developing the instinctual side of yourself?

    You will also learn how to apply the EFT tapping technique to remove any blocks or self doubt and enhance your experience in this workshop.
    Level 1: Date TBC, late 2019
    Level 2: Date TBC, late 2019
    10:00 am to 5:00 pm at Reflections Resource Centre in Sheung Wan, HK


  • The Basics of META-Health: the art and science of self healing
    META-Health wheelWhat if you knew the reasons behind your symptoms so you could understand what needs to be resolved to allow your body to heal? Become aware of root causes and how unconscious triggers impede healing. An interactive workshop about META-Health and the art and science of self healing.
    September 2019 (date TBC). 10:00 am – 2:00 pm


  • Enhance your EFT Skills: Build your skills and confidence with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
    In this experiential workshop we will cover:
    – When and for what to use EFT
    – Creating your setup statement
    – Focus on negative or positive while tapping?
    – ‘Aspects’ of a stressful situation
    – Mind-mapping for EFT
    – EFT for memories
    – EFT with breath
    – Q&A

    Date/time TBC

  • EFT Skills workshop at CancerLink, HK: Learning EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) as a tool to manage stress and symptoms. Empowering people affected by cancer to feel more in control and improve their quality of life.
    Offered as a part of the support services to help cancer patients and their families.
awareness with EFT workshops

Awareness allows us to get outside of our mind and observe it in action.

About the workshops:
– Workshops are experiential, which means they involve discussion as well as participation
– Small number of participants, between 8-12
– All workshops are confidential, which means anything shared remains within the group


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Introduction to EFT Tapping Group

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Introduction to EFT Tapping Group

EFT Tapping group

Heard about EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) but haven’t experienced it yet? Curious about the technique? In need of a refresher on the technique?

In this introductory group you will experience the EFT tapping technique, and learn how to use it for yourself to help with daily stresses. EFT is not only powerful and effective but also very simple to use.

EFT is a relaxing mind-body technique that is safe, gentle, and non-invasive. EFT allows us to release uncomfortable feelings like anger, hurt, guilt, fear or grief so we can feel better fast. It combines a gentle touch with conscious attention; we tap with our fingertips on acupressure points on the hands, face and body while focusing on an issue we wish to resolve. [Click here to read more about this technique…]

I will lead participants through experiential group exercises with EFT tapping, including a brief introduction for those who are new to this technique.

It doesn’t matter if you know how to tap or not, whether you’re just starting out with EFT or are an experienced tapper, you can just tap along with me.

Some areas we can work with are frustration, anxiety, relationships, job stress, physical pain, phobias, connection, more peace and happiness in your daily life. So simply bring an open mind and an issue in your life that you would like to explore.

No two tapping groups are the same, as we have different participants, touch on different issues and there is often a group theme.

Tapping as a group literally benefits everyone, because tapping with others can help reduce the intensity of your own issues. This is known as “borrowing benefits” and is one of the most profound discoveries of EFT.

You will also learn the basics of this powerful yet simple EFT technique, so you can continue to practice EFT on your own to resolve daily stresses.

Join in one or more of these Introductory EFT groups. Anyone (18+ years) is welcome to join.

If you’re looking for continued support for self care, to maximise your emotional well-being, consider joining my 6 Week Support Group.

Facilitated by Falguni Mather, an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International.


EFT Tapping Groups
Dates and times for 2019

Day time (Mondays)
12:45 – 2:00 pm
at The Body Group
Evenings (Wednesdays)
6:30 – 7:30pm
at Alive Wellness
Monday 7 JanuaryTBC
Monday 21 January
Monday 11 February
Monday 25 February
Monday 11 March
Monday 25 March
Monday 6 May
Monday 20 May
Monday 3 June
Monday 24 June
Fee : $250

Venues :
The Body Group
14th Floor, Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK
Call directly to book your space 2167 7305 for the lunchtime EFT tapping group.

Alive Wellness
602, Yu Yuet Lai Bldg, 43-55 Wyndham Street, Central, HK
Call directly to book your space 2541 8600 for the evening EFT tapping group.


“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung

Stay or Run? Dealing with Discomfort

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Sitting with emotional discomfort is difficult. We all have strategies to cope with/run from emotional pain.

This is not surprising, as usually, this is what we have been taught, albeit unintentionally. Don’t cry, have a sweet; don’t be sad; stop making such a fuss; it’s not so bad; just get on with it… sound familiar? Not only do we not like feeling pain, we don’t like to see loved ones in pain either, which is often the origin of these sentiments. And having learned this as children, it becomes how we act from our subconscious space as adults.

However, true freedom ultimately comes from embracing our emotional pain, from sitting with the discomfort. This requires awareness, and patience with ourselves, as we reprogram our reflexes – to hurt, pain, anger, stress – into mindful reactions.

In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown (Ph.D., LMSW), research professor & author says: “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy… Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as ‘tapping’) effectively releases negative feelings and emotions that have been impacting people for years, and helps to instil new beliefs which lead to more conducive ways of living. We open up to enhanced states of well being, and feel better, work better, live better. Watch a video or read more about EFT here.

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Cravings : When the Mind is Hungry

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The title of this article does not refer to craving intellectual pursuits, but to that intense desire to keep eating a specific food after our hunger pangs have been satisfied.

There’s a real distinction – cravings are not the same as hunger:

  • Hunger is regulated by the body, while cravings are dictated by the mind.
  • Hunger is usually a general need for food while cravings can be for very specific foods
  • Hunger is about surviving physically. Cravings are often about surviving emotionally

Seen in this light, cravings are not the actual problem,
they are merely symptoms of underlying issues.

Some of these could be:

Association
This is when we link certain foods with certain activities. For example, you could be perfectly happy reading a book for hours on end but as soon as you turn on the television your mind goes to the kitchen. Or as soon as you come home from work you reach for a glass of wine. As soon as you have the kids in bed you feel the need for cake. Etc.

Procrastination
Write this report, or get a snack?
Do the laundry? Hmmm I feel hungry, I’ll just have a bag of chips first.

Boredom
This is a popular time for cravings to surface. God forbid we have to sit with ourselves for a few minutes.

Emotional States – Comfort/Distraction
Food often gives us comfort, and when we experience intense negative feelings, we can reach for food to feel soothed. This is especially true if, as children, we were given food to calm and quiet us by well meaning caregivers.
Loneliness, Anger, Sadness, Guilt, Depression, etc., these are all states that can feel very uncomfortable. Not many of us have been taught to sit with discomfort and see ourselves through, so food becomes an instant comforter. As well as a distraction from the discomfort.

Physical States
Certain foods, like sugar, can trigger an increase in our endorphin levels, serving to boost our moods and make us feel happier. So though sugary foods may result in instant happiness, it is short lived, and fails to address the real cause of the negative feeling that we are experiencing.

Then the guilt/criticism etc. that we may feel as a result of having eaten the desired food ends up making us feel worse in the long run.

The reasons why we intensely crave certain foods at certain times are different for everyone.

What’s your reason? Here’s one way to find out:

The next time your mind prompts you to reach for the food you crave, do this : just pause. Go ahead and eat it, but just pause for a few moments before you reach for it.

In that pause, ask yourself what you’re feeling. Become aware of the reason behind the craving in that particular moment.

You may be surprised to discover every time you stop to do this that the reasons are not always the same! One time it may be sheer boredom, another time may be anxiety, and the next time you may be trying to avoid feeling sad.

See for yourself. What’s under your craving?
That’s the issue that needs addressing, should you wish to do so.


Notes on Willpower

If cravings come upon us in times of stress, when we are not feeling our best, when we are tired, how on earth are we going to summon reserves of willpower to stave off eating the very foods we think are going to bring us comfort in those times?
How sustainable is it?
How guilty/bad/ashamed/weak/etc. do we feel if we “give in”?

A study conducted by Hertfordshire University (2007) found that women who tried to stop thinking about eating chocolate ended up eating 50% more than those who actually talked about their cravings*


Trying to cut out all thoughts of your favourite, fattening food may actually make you eat more!

* Source : BBC News

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Counselling, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) therapy Hong Kong

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Are you living your best life? If not, what’s stopping you?

Sometimes you just need to talk, even if you don’t know where to start or what the problem is, exactly. I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.

I specialise in recovery from trauma, relief from chronic pain and grief counselling, and also see clients for stress, anxious feelings, low moods, confidence issues, performance, phobias, life transitions and general well being.

Integrative Counselling
Incorporating the fundamental principles of traditional talk therapy with holistic approaches, my comprehensive approach is geared toward working with the full spectrum of human experience: emotional, mental, physical and spiritual; the whole individual within the community, in relation to the environment.

I firmly believe that ultimately our stresses and limitations are held not only in our mental narratives but also in our physical bodies, and that both somatic as well as cognitive approaches are important for healing, recovering and making positive life changes.

In my experience no single form of therapy is apt, or even adequate, in all situations, and my integrative approach allows me to meet your specific and individual needs in our work together.


Falguni Mather, Counselling, EFT, Hong Kong

Private Sessions :

Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to work with you, so you can connect to, and use your inner resources, allowing you to live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

Book a Session

Physical symptoms, Chronic Pain, Illness:

My integrative body-mind-social approach enables me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re suffering from physical symptoms – including chronic pain or illness – and can’t find a solution, chances are there are an underlying unresolved aspects. I’ll be detective and work with you to find root causes that are getting in the way of your well being, so you can release triggers for your acute or chronic symptoms. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”

Workshops & Support Groups:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Clarity brings new solutions. Sharing and listening to others helps to ease a sense of isolation as you build a connection with other members. Same as individual sessions, groups and workshops are confidential. Consider attending my monthly Introduction to EFT Tapping group, the 6 Week Support Group or consider getting together a group in your workplace or community, for people experiencing similar issues. A cost effective way of accessing support.


I hold a Masters in Counselling (Australia), am an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with EFT International, a META-Health Master Practitioner with MHI, and a registered yoga teacher (RYT®) with Yoga Alliance.
Member of EFTi, MHI, The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).