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Upcoming Events and Workshops

  • EFT for Conscious Parenting: Teaching parents how to use EFT on themselves and how to teach EFT to their children.
    parenting a resilient familyHomework, bed time, sibling rivalry, withdrawal, loneliness, bullying – parenting can be an emotional roller coaster no matter how old your children are. Learn an effective and powerful technique to deal with family stress. Learn EFT for yourself and learn how to teach your kids to use it, too. Imagine your child having this tool at a young age to effectively deal with life’s challenges and have confidence and resilience to pursue his or her dreams.
    January 2019 (date TBC). 10:00 am – 2:30 pm @ The Body Group (Central)

  • EFT Tapping Group:
    Meeting regularly to experience EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), also known as tapping. The technique is so simple you can continue to use it on your own to resolve daily stresses.
    If you are interested in helping yourself heal in any area of life: stress, overwhelm, health, loss, family, finances, relationships or even career, you will find this monthly group hugely beneficial.

    Evenings 6:30 – 7:30pm monthly @ Alive Wellness.
    Daytime 12:45 – 1:45pm, first and third Monday of the month @ The Body Group

  • See dates and details here


  • The Basics of META-Health: the art and science of self healing
    META-Health wheelWhat if you knew the reasons behind your symptoms so you could understand what needs to be resolved to allow your body to heal? Become aware of root causes and how unconscious triggers impede healing. An interactive workshop about META-Health and the art and science of self healing.
    January 2019 (date TBC). 10:00 am – 2:00 pm

  • Enhance your EFT Skills: Build your skills and confidence with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
    In this experiential workshop we will cover:
    – When and for what to use EFT
    – Creating your setup statement
    – Focus on negative or positive while tapping?
    – ‘Aspects’ of a stressful situation
    – Mind-mapping for EFT
    – EFT for memories
    – EFT with breath
    – Q&A

    Date/time TBC

  • Psychic Development with EFT: Julie Cook & Falguni Mather
    healingDo you ever have déjà vu experiences? Spot-on gut intuition about events? Times when you just know?
    These experiences are simply our intuition at work, a part of us that most of us have been taught to dismiss in a scientific and logic based world. Interested in exploring and developing the instinctual side of yourself? Enhance your experience with EFT in this workshop.

    Date and venue TBC

  • EFT Skills workshop at CancerLink, HK: Learning EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) as a tool to manage stress and symptoms. Empowering people affected by cancer to feel more in control and improve their quality of life.
    Offered as a part of the support services to help cancer patients and their families.
awareness with EFT workshops

Awareness allows us to get outside of our mind and observe it in action.

About the workshops:
– Workshops are experiential, which means they involve discussion as well as participation
– Small number of participants, between 8-12
– All workshops are confidential, which means anything shared remains within the group


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EFT Tapping Group

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EFT Tapping Group

EFT Tapping group

A confidential space where you can safely voice any concerns. Open to all who are looking to find relief from stressful and negative feelings. No matter what your concern, big or small, you’re welcome.

Meeting regularly to find relief from worries and experience EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), also known as tapping.

This low cost group session is an effective way of receiving support between private therapy sessions, or seeing yourself through a difficult time.

Working in groups can be powerful, often bringing new perspectives which help you see your situation a new light, creating shifts and new solutions.

My intention for this group is to provide a safe, confidential, non-judgemental environment so everyone feels heard, supported and empowered.

I also teach you this simple technique, so you can continue to use it on your own to resolve daily stresses.

  • Whether you’re just starting out with EFT or are an experienced tapper, you will benefit from this group
  • EFT/tapping is simple to learn and do, however people often report ‘forgetting to tap’. This group serves as a reminder to continue to practice EFT on your own.
  • Tapping as a group has literal benefits for everyone, as tapping with others can help reduce the emotional intensity of your own issues. This is known as “borrowing benefits” and is one of the most profound discoveries of EFT.

Facilitated by Falguni Mather, an Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner with AAMET.


Dates and times for 2018

Day time (Mondays)
12:45 – 1:45pm
at The Body Group
Evenings (Wednesdays)
6:30 – 7:30pm
at Alive Wellness
Monday 15 JanuaryWednesday 17 January
Monday 5 FebruaryWednesday 7 February
Monday 5 MarchWednesday 14 March
Monday 16 MarchWednesday 18 April
Monday 21 MayWednesday 30 May
Monday 11 JuneWednesday 13 June
Monday 16 July -
Monday 20 August
Monday 3 SeptemberWednesday 19 September
Monday 17 September
Venue: The Body Group
Call directly to book your space: 21677305.
Venue: Alive Wellness
Call directly to book your space 25418600.
Fee : $200

Venues :
The Body Group
14th Floor, Prosperous Building, 48-52 Des Voeux Road Central, HK
Call directly to book your space 2167 7305 for the lunchtime EFT tapping group.

Alive Wellness
602, Yu Yuet Lai Bldg, 43-55 Wyndham Street, Central, HK
Call directly to book your space 2541 8600 for the evening EFT tapping group.


“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung

Stay or Run? Dealing with Discomfort

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Sitting with emotional discomfort is difficult. We all have strategies to cope with/run from emotional pain.

This is not surprising, as usually, this is what we have been taught, albeit unintentionally. Don’t cry, have a sweet; don’t be sad; stop making such a fuss; it’s not so bad; just get on with it… sound familiar? Not only do we not like feeling pain, we don’t like to see loved ones in pain either, which is often the origin of these sentiments. And having learned this as children, it becomes how we act from our subconscious space as adults.

However, true freedom ultimately comes from embracing our emotional pain, from sitting with the discomfort. This requires awareness, and patience with ourselves, as we reprogram our reflexes – to hurt, pain, anger, stress – into mindful reactions.

In her book Daring Greatly, Brené Brown (Ph.D., LMSW), research professor & author says: “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy… Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as ‘tapping’) effectively releases negative feelings and emotions that have been impacting people for years, and helps to instil new beliefs which lead to more conducive ways of living. We open up to enhanced states of well being, and feel better, work better, live better. Watch a video or read more about EFT here.

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Cravings : When the Mind is Hungry

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The title of this article does not refer to craving intellectual pursuits, but to that intense desire to keep eating a specific food after our hunger pangs have been satisfied.

There’s a real distinction – cravings are not the same as hunger:

  • Hunger is regulated by the body, while cravings are dictated by the mind.
  • Hunger is usually a general need for food while cravings can be for very specific foods
  • Hunger is about surviving physically. Cravings are often about surviving emotionally

Seen in this light, cravings are not the actual problem,
they are merely symptoms of underlying issues.

Some of these could be:

Association
This is when we link certain foods with certain activities. For example, you could be perfectly happy reading a book for hours on end but as soon as you turn on the television your mind goes to the kitchen. Or as soon as you come home from work you reach for a glass of wine. As soon as you have the kids in bed you feel the need for cake. Etc.

Procrastination
Write this report, or get a snack?
Do the laundry? Hmmm I feel hungry, I’ll just have a bag of chips first.

Boredom
This is a popular time for cravings to surface. God forbid we have to sit with ourselves for a few minutes.

Emotional States – Comfort/Distraction
Food often gives us comfort, and when we experience intense negative feelings, we can reach for food to feel soothed. This is especially true if, as children, we were given food to calm and quiet us by well meaning caregivers.
Loneliness, Anger, Sadness, Guilt, Depression, etc., these are all states that can feel very uncomfortable. Not many of us have been taught to sit with discomfort and see ourselves through, so food becomes an instant comforter. As well as a distraction from the discomfort.

Physical States
Certain foods, like sugar, can trigger an increase in our endorphin levels, serving to boost our moods and make us feel happier. So though sugary foods may result in instant happiness, it is short lived, and fails to address the real cause of the negative feeling that we are experiencing.

Then the guilt/criticism etc. that we may feel as a result of having eaten the desired food ends up making us feel worse in the long run.

The reasons why we intensely crave certain foods at certain times are different for everyone.

What’s your reason? Here’s one way to find out:

The next time your mind prompts you to reach for the food you crave, do this : just pause. Go ahead and eat it, but just pause for a few moments before you reach for it.

In that pause, ask yourself what you’re feeling. Become aware of the reason behind the craving in that particular moment.

You may be surprised to discover every time you stop to do this that the reasons are not always the same! One time it may be sheer boredom, another time may be anxiety, and the next time you may be trying to avoid feeling sad.

See for yourself. What’s under your craving?
That’s the issue that needs addressing, should you wish to do so.


Notes on Willpower

If cravings come upon us in times of stress, when we are not feeling our best, when we are tired, how on earth are we going to summon reserves of willpower to stave off eating the very foods we think are going to bring us comfort in those times?
How sustainable is it?
How guilty/bad/ashamed/weak/etc. do we feel if we “give in”?

A study conducted by Hertfordshire University (2007) found that women who tried to stop thinking about eating chocolate ended up eating 50% more than those who actually talked about their cravings*


Trying to cut out all thoughts of your favourite, fattening food may actually make you eat more!

* Source : BBC News

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Counselling, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) therapy Hong Kong

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Are you living your best life? If not, what’s stopping you?
Sometimes you just need to talk, even if you don’t know where to start or what the problem is, exactly. I aim to create a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment, so you can voice your concerns while feeling heard.

If you want to feel good about yourself, improve relationships, confidence, work performance, self-esteem, physical well being; we can work together to resolve what is keeping you from living your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

With a focus on mind-body-social approach, I practice the kind of therapy that is more than just talk.

Research has shown that we have two distinct levels of awareness; embodied (physical body) and conceptual (mental structure, e.g., thoughts). I listen to both, the narrative as well as the stress held in the body, and work together with you to come to the best possible outcome for you in the present.


Falguni Mather, Counselling, EFT, Hong Kong

Private Sessions :

Wherever you are at right now, I believe in you. I am fully invested in doing my part to get you to connect to, and use, your inner resources, so you can live your life in a way that is most meaningful and satisfying to you.

Physical symptoms:

My body-mind-social approach helps me to work with you regardless of what difficulty you are experiencing. If you’re suffering from physical symptoms and can’t find a solution, chances are there is an underlying emotional root cause. I’ll be detective and work with you to find root causes that are getting in the way of your well being, so you can release triggers that may be keeping your symptoms chronic. As Dr. Gabor Maté says, “The physiology of one individual cannot be separated from the psychological and social environment.”

Workshops:

Working in groups can be a powerful way to access change within you. It can often bring new perspectives to help you see your situation a new light. Clarity brings new solutions. Working in groups helps to ease a sense of isolation as you build a connection with other members. The same as individual sessions, group sessions and workshops are confidential. Consider attending my monthly EFT tapping circle or organising a group for people experiencing similar issues. A cost effective way of accessing support.


I hold a Masters in Counselling from Monash University (Australia), an Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner certification from AAMET and a META-Health Master Practitioner certification from IMMA.
Member of AAMET, The International META-Medicine Association (IMMA), The Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association (HKPCA) and the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).